I received my monthly issue of the Toastmaster magazine in the mail two weeks ago. I LOVE this magazine. This time I read an article called You Are a Brilliant Woman by Tara Sophia Mohr.
This article gives advice and ideas on how women can improve their language to become more effective communicators. The first advice said: Drop the ‘just”.
Mind ya, I am all about equal rights and opportunities. This is STUPID, fumed I. It does not matter if you are a man or a woman, we either can or cannot communicate. Then I started to think and pay attention how many times a day I used the word just in verbal and written communication.
“I was just wondering”.
“I just wanted to ask”.
“It is just that”
“Just a question”
Holy! This Tara Sophia is RIGHT. Using the word just makes your sentences and ultimately you sound like somebody not so important.
This week my challenge at work was to remove
just from my setnences.
“I just wanted to ask” = I would like to know
I was just wondering = I was wondering
It is just that. =The thing is
Just a question.= I would like to ask you.
Surprisingly, I was getting replies to my requests faster and communicated my message across more effectively.
My challenge to you is:
if you are a female – do we really abuse the word “just“? Think about it.
If you are a male – do you do it as well? Think about it.
In Toastmaster’s Friendship.