Give It to me Right Or Don’t Give It to me at All

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No, the post is not going to be about sex. 🙂 Give it to me right or don’t give it to me at all is my motto. One of.

When I was younger, not that I am now terribly old but still, so when I was younger, I was much much nicer. I felt uncomfortable  saying no to people, which means I often ended up hanging up with wrong people, who made me feel guilty about not spending time with them, who I was not interested in, who I was a bad match with. . I understand, sometimes you have to spend time with somebody who you don’t like much. This is life, really – we do meet and communicate with people we don’t always adore. Sometimes we have to help people, and in that we can’t pick and choose.

The catch here is that if you spend all the time with people you don’t like or you think you have to be friends with, because they are so nice and friendly with you, or who don’t appreciate you, you won’t have any time for people you like and who like you, and who ARE like you and you can grown and learn together. I think you can’t compromise here – you have one life and in many cases freedom to choose who you are friends with – people who genuinely care about you, or people who just hang out.

How will you find out? Easy! Well, at least it was easy for me – when I found myself in Women’s College Hospital almost four years ago; there were some people who did not care. so I eliminated the from the friends’ list (real life friends’ list), and now when in doubt I always ask myself – would this person help if…?

Friendship and relationships are different for different people. But I think we have to have them right. Right for us, and if they are not right, a big question is whether we need them at all.